tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81433167879161118302011-07-07T18:00:50.113-07:00mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.comBlogger231100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-22133922606221416352010-03-17T08:59:00.000-07:002010-03-17T09:13:09.792-07:00<div><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_kaz54lff8gQ/S6D9p1xdseI/AAAAAAAAACg/19MhvPtnNbU/s1600-h/Irfan+4.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5449634444369310178" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 305px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 214px" alt="" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_kaz54lff8gQ/S6D9p1xdseI/AAAAAAAAACg/19MhvPtnNbU/s320/Irfan+4.jpg" border="0" /></a>I dont believe it when my son teachers telling me he is able to walk on a single rope in Skytrek Bukit Cerakah...But now looking at this photo ! Am i being over protective to my only son..i never explore on what is his ability but now i will try my best..there is a hidden potential ... you never know...Irfan luqman you are my sweet brave hero..</div><div>Kak Ngah Cheeah and Kak Yang Nabila..i dont think your sister will be so brave as you!</div><div> </div><div> </div><div>mama luqman</div><div> </div><div> </div><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-2213392260622141635?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-7496370373648598592010-02-25T18:00:00.000-08:002010-02-25T18:14:01.696-08:00Loving Autistic Son<br /><br /><br />Today just completed book given by my sister in law coming back from Abu Dhabi.Loving Olivia Bringing Up my autistic Daughter..by Liz AstorThe story are similar with other autistic mother searching of way to improve her autistic daughter..anyway the ending words that really touch my feeling ....<br /><br /><strong>she develop a new odd movement with her hand and some facial grimacing..........but she is beautiful and sweet......Each ot these characteristic are what make up..every single bit of olivia ,every single bit of her is autistic,,and every single bit of her i love,just as she is.I have arrived at full acceptance after all.</strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong>Teacher and carer all come and go,to them it is just a job..but people like us parents well,we"re in this for life,aren't we?and that's just fine with me.</strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong></strong><br />To reach the level of acceptance is not easy and alhamdulillah i am there but still with hope <strong>.</strong><br /><br /><br />Mama Luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-749637037364859859?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-4929710624752039812010-01-23T00:59:00.000-08:002010-01-23T01:17:28.473-08:00<div align="center"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_kaz54lff8gQ/S1q-eTc3y-I/AAAAAAAAACY/ch2BofP-LMo/s1600-h/DSC03617.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5429861728575278050" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_kaz54lff8gQ/S1q-eTc3y-I/AAAAAAAAACY/ch2BofP-LMo/s320/DSC03617.JPG" border="0" /></a> <br />Today is already the end of 4th week January 2010.Too busy with my world as a specialist &amp; mother..day passes too fast..and too many issues need to be tackle especially as a medical personnel..not enough specialist and my friend admitted for dengue therefore non stop on call for the past 3 weeks..I am lucky because rehabilitation medicine is not that heavy and thenks for a very helpful and strong support from my medical officers.<br /><br />Sometimes i feel neglecting my special son..sorry Irfan ...mama is trying hard making the best for you.Anyway after 1 year attending MA Joseph speecial Nedds care .he has shown tremendous improvement..He start to focus..can make sound but still no words..I need to be patience and istiqamah and really hope 2010 will a year with light for Irfan Luqaman.The articles i enclose is just for me to remember in future....there is hope for them and you would not know which is the best for your son..Only ALLAH knows the answer...<br /><br />mama irfan<br /><br /><strong><span style="font-size:+0;">Articles: Help at hand</span></strong><br /><br />With proper intervention, children with learning disorders can make significant progress, too.<br />WHEN the wiring is faulty, a light bulb blinks and dims. Tweaking the wiring may just do the trick. Similarly, neuroscientists and psychologists are attempting through various ways and means to tease and trigger neurons or nerve cells into working in harmony for those whose thinking process, speech and development have been impaired.<br />Among them is the venerable psychologist Dr Reuven Feuerstein from the International Centre for the Enhancement of Learning Potential in Jerusalem.<br />Good progress: Emy Lim is convinced that Feuerstein’s way has helped her son, Joseph Diong, 8, overcome speech impediment and propelled him to excel in school.<br />Dr Feuerstein strongly believes that the brain is modifiable. He says the brain is not a fixed, unchanged entity but is elastic and can be stretched like plastic. He postulates that with the right intervention, the brain, no matter the degree of damage or injury, can be made to function optimally.<br />The brain, he asserts, requires systematic stimulation to build cognitive function, that is, specific methods for interpreting information and problem-solving to support learning and development. This is the heart of Dr Feuerstein’s theory which he first tested out on children who were traumatised by the Holocaust and who showed autistic tendencies.<br />For the past 50 years, Dr Feuerstein’s teachings based on his Structural Cognitive Modifiability Theory and Mediated Learning Experience have benefited families and teachers in over 80 countries.<br />On the local front, therapists Foo Siang Mun and K.C. Soo have adopted Dr Feuerstein’s approach to teach their students on both ends of the developmental spectrum – from persons with autism, Down Syndrome, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder to those with high IQ. They notice the significant inroads their students are making. Those who could not speak, are talking now. Those who could not read, are reading now. Those whose memories had failed them, are now gaining ground in their studies.<br />“Prior to 2005, I had tried speech therapy, occupational therapy and behavioural modification therapy, but my daughter made little progress. Under the care of Foo, she is talking and reading,” enthuses Dr Ailina about her daughter, Aiman Syafiqah Mahathir, 10, who was diagnosed with autism at three.<br />Jane Yeoh was amazed to see her son, Ben, 6, improving in speech and behaviour.<br />“We help students with the right strategies to decode the meaning of words and symbols, understand causes and effects, ask questions, follow rules and ultimately, to learn independently,” says Soo.<br />“We unblock the barriers to learning and then build up the learner’s ability,” he adds.<br />Both Soo and Foo are science graduates, each with over 10 years of experience in corporate training prior to their current vocation as certified Feuerstein’s Instrumental Enrichment trainers.<br />They stress that teaching children with learning issues is never static. “The learning process is dynamic. As you teach, you reinforce what the student knows and mediate in areas where he is weak,” says Soo.<br />In their daily one-on-one sessions with students, they observe how the students tackle the task and decide on what they need to understand to enrich their learning. It could be decoding the meaning of words, learning how to retain memory for the task at hand, solving problems, decoding mathematical symbols or learning how to ask questions.<br />“Many with learning disorders do not know how to ask questions,” Foo observes. Because it is an essential skill for communication, Foo and Soo teach their students the need to ask questions and show them how to do it.<br />“When they learn how to ask questions, they gain knowledge. This lessens their frustration, especially when they are placed in an unfamiliar setting or situation,” explains Foo. When their level of frustration lessens, inappropriate behaviour will decrease, too.<br />Theoretically, a child with no learning issues, learns directly from his environment. But when a child has a learning disability, he needs a little nudge to help him make sense of the information presented to him. In doing so, he learns to interact with people and blend into the environment.<br />But that is only one side of the story. The person who teaches must also know how to teach. “The learning does not start and end with the student. The mediator or teacher must first know how to teach effectively and the only way to do it, is to learn with the right tools. We believe Feuerstein’s method is the way to go for parents,” explains Soo.<br />Concurs Emy Lim, mother of Joseph Diong, eight. She is convinced that Feuerstein’s way has helped her son overcome speech impediment and propelled him to excel academically.<br />“My son could not speak even at the age of five and had behavioural issues. He was taken to see a few specialists and he was advised to undergo speech therapy. But that didn’t help,” recalls Lim, a pharmacist. But when she took Joseph to Foo and Soo, she discovered that he had a problem with auditory memory. “He could not remember what he heard and saw,” she says. But as she worked hand-in-hand with Soo and Foo, Joseph gradually overcame his problem with memory and began to talk. To Lim, that is a breakthrough.<br />Now Joseph consistently emerges as the best student in the private school he attends. Talking to him, it is hard to believe this articulate boy with a ready smile once had learning problems. Today one of his favourite pastime is reading books. “I like to read about the adventures of Geronimo Stilton,” says Joseph. Geronimo Stilton’s character is a talking mouse and the series of books based on his adventures are considered one of the bestselling children’s books.<br />Jane Yeoh is another parent who feels that her children have benefited from Foo and Soo’s way of teaching. She gave up her job as an illustrator to care for her sons Keith, eight, and Ben, six, both of whom have learning disorders. “Ben underwent speech therapy for two years but he did not show any improvement,” says Yeoh.<br />Hard-pressed, she decided to give Soo and Foo a try two years ago and was amazed to see Ben and Keith improving in speech and behaviour. “What I like about their teaching approach is that they are flexible and creative in troubleshooting,” she adds.<br />Soo and Foo stress that parents play an integral role in interventional therapies. “The child’s progress depends on how much time the parents are willing to put in,” says Soo.<br />Wan Chik Hanoom, mother of two special needs boys, concedes parental involvement is vital. She gave up her job with a multinational company to care for Mohd Anas Syed Mohd, 13, and Abu Talhah Syed Mohd, 18.<br />For years, she had to bear the brunt of the wrath of Talhah’s teachers for his behaviour. While Talhah had no problem reading and talking, she says, he had no comprehension of what he read and his speech was inappropriate. In addition to that, she had to watch over Anas who has Down Syndrome.<br />But five years ago, she sought the help of Foo and Soo and together they worked through the issues her two sons faced. Now Talhah has not only completed his major government exams, he is looking forward to going to college. “Anas is able to talk without any tantrums and he is better at managing himself,” beams Wan Chik.<br />A healthy dose of optimism helps, too. As Feuerstein says on his website: “Have faith because there is hope.”<br /></div><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-492971062475203981?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-24097394191389748142009-09-26T05:37:00.000-07:002009-09-27T05:18:31.143-07:00<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_kaz54lff8gQ/Sr4THUsm9UI/AAAAAAAAACQ/j9S2IhsVlsE/s1600-h/DSC03259.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5385763220917515586" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_kaz54lff8gQ/Sr4THUsm9UI/AAAAAAAAACQ/j9S2IhsVlsE/s320/DSC03259.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><p></p><div>This year raya.. 2009 is my hometown Teluk Intan turn to celebrate Hari Raya..All my children very happy to meet their atok n opah intan...I manage to get release on Friday at least to spend 1 or 2 days fasting in my hometown...No place will ever change your feelings to your hometown..I am very proud that i was born in a village..at least i am able to breath a pure clean and fresh air for at least 20 years .Rather than suffering from air polution causing respiratory distress in a city that i am facing now.....at least Shah Alam is not as bad as KL...</div><div>But surprisingly my hometown Teluk Intan now undergoing transformation..there is giant...Sushi King,old town white coffee and traffic congestion..Who will go to such place in Teluk Intan or maybe my hometown people are richer now that they can afford the city food..But if the same population during my old days that is low n medium income group is it necessary to bring all this modenisation ..or rather we should just be proud with our Mastan Ghani,Ghulam Rasul.<br /></div><div><strong>Dalam kerendahan hati ada ketinggian budi</strong></div><div><strong>Dalam kemiskinan harta ada kekayaan jiwa</strong></div><div><strong>Dalam kelembutan lidah ada keterlanjuran kata</strong></div><div><strong>Dalam gurau senda tenda ada khilaf dan dosa</strong></div><div></div><div><strong> MOHON MAAF ATAS SEGALANYA</strong></div><div></div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong>mama luqman sekeluarga<br /></div></strong><p><strong></strong></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br /><br /></div><p></p><div><br 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their face ..most of them will say Merdeka Auntie,Merdeka...yes they are ...but UPSR is just a beginning of a long journey.For Person like me until this level ...exams already neutralised my heart beat..no more palpitation ..no more incontinence..Possible next 2 years i will start my PhD or subspecialising in disabled children...but exams is still exams and to get flying colours there is only one way..to study smart not hard.<br /><br />mama luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-5847614499151764600?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-78653314504708292232009-09-07T07:44:00.000-07:002009-09-07T08:12:47.032-07:00While writing this page my daughter NurSyakeerah already in deep sleep as tomorrow is her UPSR day.This is my first experience with daughter facing such a big exam..next year will be Nur Nabilah turn..Despite my busy clinic my boss already promise to give me off for this 3 days as i have requested since Mei this year....I cant remember during my old Penilaian Darjah Lima days ,but i guess at that moment parents are not that excited as today...because most of my friend is in the same boat taking 3 days off to give moral support to their children.For sure tomorrow when i sent my daughter,it is not only full of children to sit for exam but the anxious parents .<br />But it is a great feeling...knowing your children already grown up and next year they will enter secondary school.It also reminds me on my age as i am no more young.<br />Yet as a mother to a special son,my special boy will always be the up most in my thought..what will be his future.at this moment he is still dependent on someone for toileting and his speech is not develop...But i will never give up for my special son and i believe Allah will hear my doa's and maybe one day my special son will be able to sit for UPSR exam.Insyallah<br /><br />mama luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-7865331450470829223?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-32671463201285442862009-08-30T16:07:00.000-07:002009-08-30T16:44:22.248-07:00Hi today is our Merdeka Day and all Malysian should be proud of this day.But shouting,dancing and yelling among youngsters and school children is not adequate...it should come from your inner soul,inner heart to realise what merdeka is all about.While typing this blog on air is the Bahtera Merdeka song ...very touchy and lovely music but do all the young generation knows about this song..I bet only 20% infact my daughter will only laugh to this old genre song.<br />It is not easy to understand Merdeka...when i am young, merdeka is just a fun day..kereta berhias ,perbarisan...and bunga api but now i realised merdeka is not for the country only but we as Malaysian citizen to merdeka our lifestyle,our dependency to outsiders and our dependency on orang putih technology.We are Malaysian ,we should be proud with our own identity ,our own technology and our own invention.<br />This remind me to my experience as a doctor<br /><br /> ..during my undergraduate my Medical Degree is from USM..this is a very nice university infact it represent 1 malaysia.. i dont have much difficulty although my 1st 2 years in USM Penang followed by next 4 years in HUSM Kubang Kerian Kelantan.Such a wonderful place very peaceful and the competition among students is not that much....<br /><br />But during my Master years in University Malaya it is very tough ..competition is very hard and tough ...you must be independent and struggle to get your way.Your mind must be merdeka if not many of my friends failed in this battle.<br /><br />Now as a specialist practising new field in medicine which is rehabilitation medicine is also a battle for me .. i have been to several countries for attachment just to merdeka my mind on the limitation that i have here.Adaptation need to be done as our country health system is different from them...our manpower is inadequate in term of numbers and knowledge therefore we need to Merdeka our mind and think our own way but maintain the quality.Infact think of the better way comparing the Australian way.....Merdeka is so broad..<br /><br />just that i hope in future all malaysian mentality will Merdeka..I am still sad if others specialist will compare my way and the Australian way ...Dont their mind understand Merdeka or they dont even know what merdeka is all about.<br /><br />MERDEKA,MERDEKA,MERDEKA.<br /><br />mama luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-3267146320128544286?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-54566152006214629942009-07-22T09:44:00.000-07:002009-07-22T10:08:29.092-07:00It has been a long time that i stop writing in this blog,maybe too busy..thats life of a doctor.On top of helping patient during the day,family is the priority...then you also need to update knowledge.Patients nowadays is not like 10 years ago,today the patient will ask very details infact bring along the internet updates,and patient is very conscious on every drug that is given...It is good but the difficulty is for doctors as we must be ready with all the answers...Ha,ha,ha, maybe i choose this field so i should just keep quiet.For my daughter later on ..you need to think twicwe before yo choose to be a doctor...<br />I just wanted to share my sympathy to a friend ,she has just completed her gazettement in my hospital and there is still post for her in HKL but the Ministry Of Health are sending her to Kota Baru..She need to leave her 3 kids temporarily with her in laws and husband .She need to survive alone temporarily before she decide to bring along all the kids .<br />I guess all doctors are train to be strong..but when it come to family .I feel like crying seing her tears for almost every day..If this happen to me i cant imagine what will happen especially to my special son.To the top person they can only say what to do! you can resign if you like.Therefore now the doctors is joining the private sectors ...on top of better pay ,you still have your family around..although you are tired but the smile of your kids that you can see everyday will light up your day.<br /><br />Mama Luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-5456615200621462994?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-2906355812463581762009-05-19T09:08:00.000-07:002009-05-19T09:20:43.478-07:00Sudden blow of infectious diseases occur in Malaysia...from the worldwide Virus H1N1..to meningitis and now leptospirosis...Why this occur? Maybe due to the hot weather lately...but the most important is about hygiene...But if you are talking about pig as the vector this pandemic have show to us why pig are not allowed for muslim...Hygiene ..our religion taught us on cleanliness.Prevention from spreading of disease our culture has taught us to respect others in situation such as sneezing or coughing in public....<br /><br />Moral of the story that i want to share..the beauty of our religion has warned us on the need of hygiene and cleanliness ..and avoiding food/touching certain animals such as pig.But we are the one still deaf and blind.Hopefully with all that happen we start to realize how proud we are to be Muslim .<br /><br />mama luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-290635581246358176?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-23842966566486109202009-05-12T08:53:00.000-07:002009-05-12T09:16:09.128-07:00If you ask me ..being a doctor is a correct choice of occupation my answer will be yes once upon a time but not now..for the past 15 years having DR title in front of my name there is so much differences.During previous years patient is more polite ,very minimal questions and respect you for your advice and knowledge but now with "customer always right" being a doctor is so miserable...you have to entertain patient with no appointment once they threatened you..complain will be publish in news papers..the thrill and patience,the joy and happiness being a doctor to give a helping hand fade away. Now you just want to be a doctor for money..at the end of the day you are paid accordingly ..Partly it is a frustration for someone like me..<br />Does people out there know what is a life of a doctors..seeing patient in the clinic, ward round ,on call and your family...additional burden is like me traveling from shah alam to HKL and having a special son...\Despite being clinician we are managing the department ....<br />But i do hope people can understand ..we as doctors are human ,especially during this recession the high income start searching for government hospital and there goes never ending problems and complains.. .<br /><br />mama luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-2384296656648610920?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-65463934487567090122009-03-13T19:28:00.000-07:002009-03-13T19:37:57.040-07:00I choose a day after Maulidur Rasul 10/3/09 for my son circumcision day.This is done in private hospital under general anesthesia.if you ask me how much including a night stay ..more then 3k luckily covered by my husband GL or if we need to pay only 50%.<br />Today is the 4th day post circumcision but still the wound not that good..I have difficulty dressing luqman as he will kick me and slapped my maid.However with antibiotic i hope he will recover soon.The stitch is still intact and that is good.... Luqman is my only son and this is my first experience to look after circumcision boy..i took leave for 1 week and hopefully by next week he will be ok.<br /><br />mama luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-6546393448756709012?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-16885730647736895922009-02-22T05:51:00.000-08:002009-02-22T06:14:06.600-08:00It has been a long time not writing in this blog.As this is my personal blog and no publicity except to my close friends and family members so it is not so important.Today my parents visited me together with my other siblings...I just wanted to share about the questions being ask to me today..my sister claim her friends daughter had delay in speech ,age 5 and no diagnosis being made...I have similar feelings like this before, to accept that you have disabled children in the family is not easy..i use to remember my father say he cried almost every night knowing my" kak Yang "unable to walk anymore...and i still remember the old days my father will bring my sister for treatment either modern medicine or alternative....Accepting something bad is usually difficult especially it is most likely life long but someone must have a strength to face reality of life or not they will ended up to depression.....grief are common to everybody but the acceptence in every individual is so different..you start with denial that is unable to accept followed by anger why me? why us then acceptance but the duration of each phase varies ...Alhamdulillah the grief phase in my life are not soo long maybe because i deal with most of the disabled patient . i accept what Allah has given me as i belief there must be hikmah in everything my aim now is the future of my son to make him functional as possible so he will be independent without burdening anybody,may ALLAH help me and be with me to face this journey insyaALLAH.....<br />Belief in AlQuran Surah Al Insyirah_selepas kesusahan datang kesenangan<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-1688573064773689592?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-36128173637912913452009-02-06T07:33:00.000-08:002009-02-06T07:35:48.549-08:00<strong>How To Teach Writing To A Child Suffering From Autism<br /></strong>A <a href="http://www.about-disability.com/disability-training/how-to-teach-writing-to-a-child-suffering-from-autism-239.html" target="_top">child</a> with autism is often described as being confined in his or her own world. This is because the child has limited ability to interact with other people. A part of the autistic spectrum is the inability to properly grasp the concept of language. Teaching writing to a child with autism can prove very valuable to both the teacher and the student. In the side of the student there are a variety of advantages that he or she can gain from the ability to write.<br />You give the child the precious ability of interacting when teaching writing to a child with autism. This is a better way because face to face verbal interaction is just too intimidating for autistic <a href="http://www.about-disability.com/disability-training/how-to-teach-writing-to-a-child-suffering-from-autism-239.html" target="_top">children</a> making them often unable to communicate with other people. However, writing allows them to express their feelings on a much more impersonal level.<br />Now-a-days, as you may have seen computers are being used to enhance the communication skills of autistic children. Teaching writing to a child with autism would help him or her with the knowledge necessary to improve his or her communication skills. One reason is that teaching writing to a child with autism helps him or her initiate the interaction.<br />Teaching writing to a child with autism does not only help him or her in developing communication skills. It also helps them to develop hand-eye coordination and grace in movement. Many people react with disbelief when informed of this fact. However, when you study the history of specific cultures you will see the meaning behind this.<br />Miyamoto Musashi, also known in Japan as the sword saint, developed his swordsmanship through calligraphy. In fact, when you study Chinese martial arts history, you will find that many warriors took up calligraphy in order to improve their skill. And what do you think calligraphy is? It is learning how to write beautifully.<br />Let’s now go to the side of the teacher. What advantages can teaching writing to a child with autism possibly give to the teacher?<br />Well, there is always self fulfillment. Abraham Maslow places the need for self actualization as the highest need that a man can fulfill. This means that the quest for self fulfillment is the noblest quest known to man. In teaching writing to a child with autism, people find self fulfillment because they learn how to take pride in the achievements of the student.<br />They realize just how much impact teaching writing to a child with autism has. They learn the value of their help and just how much progress they have made with the child. They also learn how to appreciate their own abilities.<br />Because of the development of technology, many people forget the value of being able to write. They reason out that they do not really need the skill since they can send any message using the keyboard. The skill of writing is especially declining today because people can choose to send messages using video or audio messages. Teaching writing to a child with autism lets them rediscover the value of being able to write.<br />As you may have seen, there are a lot of advantages to be gained from teaching writing to a child with autism. Just by doing this small task of helping another human being, you give and you gain so much. And that, my friend, is that.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Things To Remenber While Teaching Child With Autism</strong><br />Teaching a <a href="http://www.about-disability.com/disability-training/things-to-remenber-while-teaching-child-with-autism-201.html" target="_top">child</a> with autism is a challenge for most people, especially for parents who have not yet accepted the condition of their child or have not been informed on the things that need to be done in order to ensure the good education of their special child…<br />Autism is a mental disability that attacks the ability of the child to move, communicate, think, and feel normally. Knowing these would enable parents as well as other people involved in teaching the child with the right guidelines on the proper way on how to educate autistic child.<br />Here are the factors to consider when teaching a child with autism:<br />Instructional Formats or Curriculum – There is no single and general effect of autism. Different <a href="http://www.about-disability.com/disability-training/things-to-remenber-while-teaching-child-with-autism-201.html" target="_top">children</a> suffering from the same disorder happen to have different conditions. Each requires a special instructional format or curriculum to be applied. Thus, the way of teaching is not based on autism itself but the effects it has brought to the child.<br />However, there are general instructional formats or curricula that can be given to every autistic child. The difference is only on the approach of teaching.<br />Communication concerns – The way instructions are given to children with autism should not be the same with the normal students. Since autistic children have difficulties on understanding things verbally and could not communicate well verbally, instructions should be given in a different way. The classroom should then be equipped with things that would enable children to learn even without verbal instructions. Visual activities are better ways to communicate with special children. Instructions and rules, outside the curriculum that need to learn and understand should be given in the way the children could understand most. The main point is to communicate properly and effectively.<br />Age – Autistic children may have the same physical age may have different mental age. Knowing the mental age of the child is would provide easier learning process for both the child and the teacher or parents.<br />For young autistic children, parents must apply the early intervention program that would enable the child to be guided correctly in terms of discipline, motor skills, and communication. This must be done as soon as you discovered that your child is suffering from autism.<br />Meanwhile, instruction for elementary students may include ways on how to integrate with other people or making friends. In other words, autistic children should be trained to be sociable in this period of learning.Autistic children in their high school years must learn how to integrate not only with other people but also with the whole community. How to work, live, participle and recreate with other people is very important to learn in this stage.<br />Behavioral factors – Autistic children need to be guided with how they behave to themselves and to other people. This is because they are especially passive or have developed destructive or excessive behaviors. If before, the approach to change this behavior is by punishment, today, the approach given is by positive behavior support or the PBS. This approach treats the children with dignity and respect that would not only improve their self-worth but also improve their behavior dramatically without using cruelty. Special children need affection and care. This approach can answer these needs.<br /><br />MAMA LUQMAN<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-3612817363791291345?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-65103713893583712902009-02-06T07:17:00.000-08:002009-02-06T07:27:56.340-08:00Today i was shocked with the political situation in Perak.I love my hometown and very proud of Perak.The Sultan for me is the most educated amongst the other state.I am sad how can a malay man,muslim man and leader (ex MB) can derhaka to the leader .I remember my old days memorising the "rukunegara " till now it seems to be burried deep in my soul..kepercayan kepada Tuhan,<strong>KESETIAAN KEPADA RAJA DAN NEGARA</strong> ....In fact if you look at the education for disabled ..my son also dance each time negaraku and stand straight as possible during rukunegara.......what happen to our nationality ..arent we proud to be muslim and malay and have Sultan ...sad ,sad ,sad...something need to be done to make us realised that Malaysian is a muslim and Malays is the majority ..Sultan as pemerintah harus ditaati...We should be proud as Malaysian.<br /><br />mama luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-6510371389358371290?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-25430479551022932122009-01-29T08:11:00.000-08:002009-01-29T08:27:51.837-08:00Today i have my old patient a case of mentally challenge and scoliosis.She was able to walk but not in the normal pattern..,due to the bad and worsening scoliosis she undergone operation and since then she can't walk..When i saw her in my clinic 5 month ago i still remember the tears of the mother and unexplained sadness as she can't walk anymore..but what i look there is potential and with aggressive therapy session by my therapist the light seem to be brighter..and with continous pray and support by the family now during the clinic session i found she can walk with a walking frame.....Now the tears of joy and the smile seen in her mother face.Moral of the story for parents with special children we need to support our children,motivate them and continous pray and hope..Istiqamah is the best for sure Allah will heard us.I belief in surah Al Insyirah (kelapangan) as Allah promise us selepas kesusahan datang kesenangan,selepas kesusahan datang kelapangan..Belief in Allah and with good work Insyallah....<br /><br />mama Luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-2543047955102293212?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-79126172975523128682009-01-17T23:54:00.000-08:002009-01-18T00:07:50.878-08:00Today when i scroll on the topic autisma in Malaysia ,i found one blog of a parents with autism.2 of his son is having autisme..surelly it is a sad feelings but what the father really concern is the future of this autistic children..in Malaysia there is no such things of proper institutions for this children and institutions for disabled children is very bad under welfare department..once i visited rumah kanak-kanak terencat akal in kuala kubu ..it is really sad and the staff seems over exhausted as the no of children to staff ratio is very unreasonable..maybe parents of autisme should sit together and think about this..if i am still strong at my elderly years and as a professional in medical field i will open an institutions for my son and welcome the others but this need support and courage..may Allah givew me courage and health so my dreams will come true..and hopefully there will be a strong parents support group that think about this.till then<br /><br />mama luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-7912617297552312868?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-24654977770345003632009-01-15T08:21:00.000-08:002009-01-15T08:34:06.767-08:00It is easy to be a boss.I agree with that but to be a boss means to be a leader..therefore good example must be shown furthermore concern on your staff problems is very important.<br />I have problem with this..having special son i need more time ...sending my son to school ,to therapy it is not easy and i don"t choose these but it is an AMANAH from Allah having this children totally pure white and innocent and they make you smile ........<br />Sadly my boss did not understand this..today because of the leave i took yesterday she started to grumble and yelling...<br />But at the end of the day i realized who care about your problems the boss only care her problems...it is you and don't bother what your boss say..maybe you should yell back .....<br /><br />mama luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-2465497777034500363?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-50486999616585825602009-01-13T19:35:00.000-08:002009-01-13T19:51:23.122-08:00Today i need to take leave because of luqman therapy day..i just can't manage working and running to pick him up at lunch time from HKL back to Shah Alam and sending to Setiawangsa...I guess because reaching 40's your level of energy and endurance are very much reduce..So with this oppurtunity on leave i meet my son teacher in his Sekolah Kebangsaan.My son attended special class...I was just asking on luqman improvement and thanks to Allah there was a positive answer ...furthermore i inform the teacher on the allowance RM 600 that was bank in for luqman account.The teacher said many of the parents dissatified on the amount 50/month as the government on the 2008 budget talk was saying the allowance increase to 150/month..As usual i am a government officer i accept what is given and agree there is possibility the government need time to implement it especially related to money..but the teacher claim some of the parents really scold her and very mad on the promise governmenet made.....but the moral of the story was, as long we get help for our children ..Alhamdulillah and we must be patientce.<br />Asking on future autistic children after completed secondary school ..there is none.<br />Therefore i will keep in mind ,if i have the courage and opportunity i will debate this matter with ministry of health n ministry of education..but till now i am so busy and not working today i still have to prepare educational talk for my staff.<br /><br />mama luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-5048699961658582560?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-53253056883376264752009-01-11T06:55:00.000-08:002009-01-11T07:07:46.528-08:00Today is Sunday and my neighbour ,invited my family for a birthday party.The place is KFC extreme park, a new place.Luqman was so excited as the music is loud and all the song will make him shake his body.He behave well and eat the nugget..very comfortable sitting while watching the other children dancing,jumping following the music.<br />Each birthday party that i bring luqman along ,for sure make me sad..he just can't behave as the other children despite adequate physical look.That is autism ,sometimes people never understand on their condition as they look well..but on the second thought i thank Allah for what Luqman have as he is well.... only the behaviour and speech issues.<br />Now luqman attended behaviour therapy 3x weekly and hoping there will be positive outcome.<br />May Allah help me n my son.<br /><br />mama luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-5325305688337626475?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-19165502987357533802009-01-05T02:51:00.000-08:002009-01-05T03:07:08.732-08:00People should be more aware of what disabled children are ?,facilitating their live to be easier not more miserable.But sadly nobody really care..not the teacher,not the government unless you have them in your family.Unless this special son is your lovely and sunshine son.<br />Today suppose to be a happy day for all student as this is the first day of schooling for year 2009,but it become the most frustrated day where discrimination for disabled children can be seen.<br />My son attended special class in this normal school with my maid waiting almost every day..last year there was a room for the carer but this year it has been change to a store..with the chair ,door and all wooden material inside the room..why nobody really bother about special children ,they don t eat as normal child,they don t speak the same language ..but please give space for the carer to help them.If they join the other children surely the others will look at him as weird as a mad person...i have heard my nephew saying my handsome luqman as "gila" so what do you expect when they are in larger group...therefore a privacy room for them to eat with the carer help is important...<br /><br />I am so sad as no proper toilet for special children..they still need to jump the high stairs squatting toilet ..<br /><br />sad.sad,sad<br /><br />mama luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-1916550298735753380?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-70431460971131160342009-01-01T20:44:00.000-08:002009-01-01T20:48:43.799-08:00<strong>An Approach To Educating Child With Autism</strong><br /><strong></strong><br />It is in the manner of perception that we can either work our way out of a problem or say that our trip just ended. Many times have we experienced giving up and say in the end that if we only held tight to the rope then we could have risen to victory.<br />Autism is just the same. Superficially, we may perceive that we cannot find our way to work the problem of our <a href="http://www.about-disability.com/disability-training/an-approach-to-educating-child-with-autism-156.html" target="_top">child</a> out. But there are endless possibilities, if only you believe.<br />It is the way we think that will affect our actions to things. It is the approach we use in determining what will work for us and what will not. It all lies in patience and faith in whatever we do. Just be patient in waiting what truly awaits your child and you. Just be patient and you will find what truly troubles your son or your daughter. Just be patient and your child will be the one to tell you the cure for his or her condition.<br />Educating a child with autism is deemed next to impossible. If you as a parent believe in that too, you will find that your child’s case is an impossible to handle problem. A child with autism can learn, only in different manners. Your trip cant be over when he cant understand a word you say or he doesn’t get the meaning of what is an “a” or “ba”. Somehow, your role is to find the ways by which he may easily catch up with things.<br />He learns at his own pace and at his own time. You can’t hasten him to ripen when his time hasn’t come yet. You have to be patient and really take him to the step-by-step manner of educating him. You can’t just say to him things at one time and expect that they already have registered in his mind. If “practice makes perfect idea is true” then this time, believe in it. Your methods on educating your child may not be perfect or the results may not yield out perfectly but at least, the little things you have done to help him learn will make his life a bit more meaningful.<br />If it is behavior that you are dealing with, then it is best that you modify your behavior too. It takes courage to do just that since we are already oriented with the world of reason. Helping your child would mean defying what is normal. Act childish if you must. That way, you can better communicate with your child.<br />There is no standard approach to educating <a href="http://www.about-disability.com/disability-training/an-approach-to-educating-child-with-autism-156.html" target="_top">children</a> with autism. After all, each child with autism displays a behavior different from that, which is shown by another. The spectrum is too wide that is why there is no way to categorize children displaying autistic features. Nonetheless, it is you who know your child best. You may not know the nature of his sufferings exactly but the compassion you have and your commitment to love will spar you to take your child to newer heights of learning.<br />He can’t forever stay with learning ABC’s or 123s. Somehow, he has to learn better. But this doesn’t imply that you have to force him to learn.<br />As you might have concluded by now, a child with autism does not learn in ways similar to that of normal children. This is inevitable since their <a href="http://www.about-disability.com/disability-training/an-approach-to-educating-child-with-autism-156.html" target="_top">brain</a> works in ways dissimilar with the normal brain. Add to this the fact that they are impaired with certain behaviors that are crucial in proper learning. Before you can truly go deep to their brain, you have to eliminate barriers such as compulsive and repetitive behaviors that often go beyond hurting their own bodies. (Remember though that they have lesser sensitivity to <a href="http://www.about-disability.com/disability-training/an-approach-to-educating-child-with-autism-156.html" target="_top">pain</a> and this would not stop them from banging their heads on the floor or biting their arms 10 minutes straight).<br />Parent, just believe and ask for the Creator to make miracles for your precious child. And you’ll see, things will go to their proper places when their time comes.<br /><br />reading this article give inspiration and hope for me..never give up for no matter what the future will be.<br /><br />mama luqman<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-7043146097113116034?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-89157167023899891442009-01-01T08:00:00.000-08:002009-01-01T20:04:53.855-08:00<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_kaz54lff8gQ/SV2KC9bO8fI/AAAAAAAAABI/QF3xWsyUZMY/s1600-h/DSC00108.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5286533321055990258" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 231px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 125px" alt="" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_kaz54lff8gQ/SV2KC9bO8fI/AAAAAAAAABI/QF3xWsyUZMY/s320/DSC00108.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Today is the first day of year 2009.Today is a public holiday therefore life seem to be cool everywhere.There are not many car on the road and easily you can go shopping..but today i don't have any specific programs ..maybe just spending time with my lovely children.<br />today i went to my eldest brother house and after ringing the door bell his maid show her face and open the big door.but to my surprise a few minutes later she was shouting calling akmal my brother youngest son..she seem so worried calling repeatedly akmal,akmal ,,,,,,,,,,,<br />my brother was also so shock ,panic run all over the house searching for akmal..but after few minutes the maid found akmal is just at the corner ..he refuse to say any words..<br />Moral of the story is how precious is our children..i can"t imagine if we do loss them,<br />i cant imagine sharlinie parents grief of loosing her.<br />All parents love their children..and with the hope they will also love us oneday.<br />Now at the age of 40,having kids growing i realized how our parents struggle during our early days with my father earning only 400 /month and my mother is just a housewife.<br />I love my emak and abah .....hoping my kids will also love me.<br />My daughter sometimes say i love my special son more compare to them but deep in my heart my love is the same...just that as he is mama special son you think more about him especially on his future ....<br />To my daughter i love both of you just as your handsome brother.<br /><br />mama luqman</div><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-8915716702389989144?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8143316787916111830.post-18863508803313436432008-12-31T05:29:00.000-08:002008-12-31T05:44:22.298-08:00<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_kaz54lff8gQ/SVt2xBahb8I/AAAAAAAAAAo/ObHOiUN7KEU/s1600-h/DSC01657.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5285949172214755266" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_kaz54lff8gQ/SVt2xBahb8I/AAAAAAAAAAo/ObHOiUN7KEU/s320/DSC01657.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><div></div><br /><div>This is my first day writing for this blog,specially dedicated to my handsome special son master Irfan Luqman.He is so special because he looks physically normal but cognitively none of us really understand who he is..My special autistic boy.</div><br /><div>He was diagnosed as autistic at the age of 3,after seeking advice from a lot of specialist.Being a doctor my self this is not easy..diagnosing your one and only son behaving so odd spinning things,spinning rope,poor eye contact ..how frustrated at that moment.</div><br /><div>Now it has been 5 years understanding my son..with hope and pray i wish year 2009 mean light in his life..I pray he can speak..can write well ..can be as other kids playing football and together with his 2 lovely sisters to go to school...</div><br /><div>That is for today..</div><br /><div></div>Moga Allah mendengar harapan hambanya ini.<br /><div>mama Irfan Luqman</div><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8143316787916111830-1886350880331343643?l=mamaspecialson.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>mama luqmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05417950556534479978noreply@blogger.com0